I think I can probably assume that most of you reading this are similar to me. Lover of pretty things (usually of the marble and copper variety), enjoy buying yourself
frequent occasional gifts (makeup, clothes, brunch…that list could go on for a while) and are a little obsessed with social media.
And I can assume that you read the title of this post (maybe even eye rolled a little) and wondered what I would have to say about self acceptance.
I bet most of you reading this, have had days where you wish you were someone else?
Beat yourself up mentally because you don’t look a certain way or don’t tick a certain box.
We’ve all had those days.
And yes, you can safely assume I’ve had a lot of those days over the past few years. It’s safe to say I’ve been on a journey of self discovery and am learning to accept myself, flaws and all.
Understanding how to cope with changes I never thought I would have to deal with, and opening up about my mental health.
If anything, it has made me realise that it’s so important to do things you actually want to do, and not be scared about what people think.
But it wasn’t always like this. Days used to go by where all I wanted to do was curl up into a ball and feel sorry for myself. I would scroll through social media and think to myself, I wish I looked like her.
I thought I would never post pictures of myself online, I’m too ugly/don’t fit the asthetics of blogging. I hid behind carefully curated flatlays. All because I wasn’t a certain size. It used to get me down so much.
So what has changed?
My mindset. It was only at the start of this year, I realised that the only thing really stopping me from doing what I wanted was the thoughts in my head.
Negative thoughts seemed to cloud my mind and would prevent me from doing what I wanted.
I realised that small positive thoughts and achieving little goals were my motivator.
Like right now, I’m sat in the hairdressers, typing up this post. A year or so ago, I wouldn’t have dreamed of whipping out my laptop because I was worried what people would think.
Who actually cares? If someone has an opinion on me using my laptop, then they’re not worth worrying about. I’m being productive and feeling happy about it.
After recently having number of conversations about mental health, and two people telling me that they really appreciated my opinion on their MH situation, it spurred me on to write a post on self acceptance and my journey.
Practising self love really helped me. And by the way, it doesn’t mean I love myself (far from it). It’s just a process on how you treat yourself.
Just think for a second, if you spoke to a friend the way that you speak to yourself (in your head), would you be friends? I know I probably wouldn’t.
Being your own worst critic does come with some benefits, don’t get me wrong. But having constant negative thoughts about yourself and comparing your journey to everyone elses’, isn’t going to do anyone any good.
Boosting your mood can be tough, but there are quite a few little tips to help.
Do things that make YOU happy.
Push yourself outside your comfort zone. Confront those fears and stop making excuses. We’re so afraid to fail that we just allow ourselves to become stuck in what is safe. Take baby steps.
Focus on things you can control and let go of things you can’t. What is the point of focusing on those mistakes you made in the past, build a bridge and get over it.
And if you’re unconinvced you can do any of the above, fake it till you make it! Positive thoughts, and shh that inner critic.
The next step for me, was posting my first proper outfit post on the internet. I’ve wanted to do it for ages but have been super scared.
Does this mean I’m fully happy with how I look, no.
Have I pushed myself out of my comfort zone and feel proud of myself? Yes!
So here’s to taking a bigger step to self acceptance. And remember…
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” – Buddha
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