It would be amazing to feel on top of the World all of the time, but it’s just not realistic.
I’ve had a few things happen over the last year or so, which has, shall we say, knocked me quite a bit. Without going into the details, I’ve spent the last year trying to work out how to “make myself better”.
I’ve realised, it’s perfectly okay not to be okay. That it’s okay to cry, to be alone, to feel negative and to want to curl up in a ball and eat ALL the food. It’s okay to say no and turn down opportunities because you just don’t feel like it.
I know I use my blog as a positive place and hide the real me, and for most part, that’s ok. But I really wanted to sit down and write this post, because I’ve seen an increasing amount of people in the same position as me, who are suffering in silence.
Remember, it’s okay to feel sad, moody, upset or even angry. Because you’re human. You are allowed to feel these emotions. And it’s OKAY to admit that you aren’t fine.
One of the things I’ve realised, is that admitting to yourself, and others around you, that you are not okay, really does help. You should never feel like you can’t be your true self, and if others can’t accept the way you’re feeling, then that’s their problem, not yours.
Now I’m not saying you should mope around for months on end, or go on a crazy tirade. But I’ve realised that hiding behind a perfectly curated blog/instagram, trying to paint the perfect little life, when you’re feeling like absolute shit, isn’t the way to go. I actually urge you to try and show a little more of your true self online. It will make you feel better, and I think you’ll be surprised at how many people are actually so supportive.
One of the best things about blogging is how supportive the community is. Although we may have a lost sight of it a little bit recently, many people are actually in the same position. Think about ways to support each other, maybe sending a tweet of support or commenting on a recent post. I really want bloggers to focus more on that, than gossiping about how someone got a sponsored post or whether *blogger X* bought a Gucci bag out of their own money. It’s good to be happy for other people and to show support. I’ve certainly noticed more people be positive towards me, since trying to spread positivity myself.
What’s not okay, is not wanting to do something about your mood.
Focusing and stressing yourself out over what other people think, is just going to make things worse. The people who care, won’t mind if you aren’t feeling your best, you’re never going to feel better if you stress yourself out. Trust me, I’ve learnt the hard way.
Remember, everyone goes through the motions in life and that you will always experience ups and downs. It’s not your fault and it’s certainly not a sign of weakness if you admit you don’t feel your best.
If you’re reading this, try and spread a little positivity onto someone else and to be there for the people. It is really important! And if you can, please share this with others too.