Why it’s perfectly okay not to be okay!

It would be amazing to feel on top of the World all of the time, but it’s just not realistic.


I’ve had a few things happen over the last year or so, which has, shall we say, knocked me quite a bit. Without going into the details, I’ve spent the last year trying to work out how to “make myself better”.


I’ve realised, it’s perfectly okay not to be okay. That it’s okay to cry, to be alone, to feel negative and to want to curl up in a ball and eat ALL the food. It’s okay to say no and turn down opportunities because you just don’t feel like it.


Why it's perfectly okay not to be okay!

I know I use my blog as a positive place and hide the real me, and for most part, that’s ok. But I really wanted to sit down and write this post, because I’ve seen an increasing amount of people in the same position as me, who are suffering in silence.


Remember, it’s okay to feel sad, moody, upset or even angry. Because you’re human. You are allowed to feel these emotions. And it’s OKAY to admit that you aren’t fine.


One of the things I’ve realised, is that admitting to yourself, and others around you, that you are not okay, really does help. You should never feel like you can’t be your true self, and if others can’t accept the way you’re feeling, then that’s their problem, not yours.


Now I’m not saying you should mope around for months on end, or go on a crazy tirade. But I’ve realised that hiding behind a perfectly curated blog/instagram, trying to paint the perfect little life, when you’re feeling like absolute shit, isn’t the way to go. I actually urge you to try and show a little more of your true self online. It will make you feel better, and I think you’ll be surprised at how many people are actually so supportive.


One of the best things about blogging is how supportive the community is. Although we may have a lost sight of it a little bit recently, many people are actually in the same position. Think about ways to support each other, maybe sending a tweet of support or commenting on a recent post. I really want bloggers to focus more on that, than gossiping about how someone got a sponsored post or whether *blogger X* bought a Gucci bag out of their own money. It’s good to be happy for other people and to show support. I’ve certainly noticed more people be positive towards me, since trying to spread positivity myself.


What’s not okay, is not wanting to do something about your mood.


Focusing and stressing yourself out over what other people think, is just going to make things worse. The people who care, won’t mind if you aren’t feeling your best, you’re never going to feel better if you stress yourself out. Trust me, I’ve learnt the hard way.


Remember, everyone goes through the motions in life and that you will always experience ups and downs. It’s not your fault and it’s certainly not a sign of weakness if you admit you don’t feel your best.


If you’re reading this, try and spread a little positivity onto someone else and to be there for the people. It is really important! And if you can, please share this with others too.



  1. 17/08/2016 / 2:16 pm

    This is really sweet. I’m a travel blogger and recently came into some severe anxiety. I’ve been trying to fight it, losing horribly, and missing opportunities along the way. Thank you for this, as I really need to be OK with the fact I’m not OK right now. It’s alright. It’s hard to think it won’t be forever, but it’ll get better. Everything ebbs and flows. Hope you hang in there too!

    • 17/08/2016 / 2:20 pm

      Thanks so much for this Eileen. I really appreciate your comment and makes me feel better that I’m not alone. Anxiety is rubbish, but something that can be overcome. Hang in there too lovely xxxx

  2. 17/08/2016 / 5:04 pm

    I’ve got a blog post like this in my drafts to come out in a few months – it’s something that Twitter recently has really made me think about. There’s been a massive backlash to the idea that we have to be positive all the time, but some of that backlash has genuinely been really nasty. I hope we all find a good balance soon!

    Steph – http://www.nourishmeblog.co.uk

    • 24/08/2016 / 8:31 pm

      Really? I’ve not seen a lot but I really hope you do post it. It has made me feel a little better and sometimes it’s just got to let things out. I hope you also get the good balance too lovely and thanks so much for your comment xx

  3. 17/08/2016 / 5:14 pm

    Love this post Sam! It is indeed perfectly ok not to be ok, and the way I see it, these are the moments that teach us most and make us better. You’re doing great! Lots of hugs to you! xx

    • 24/08/2016 / 8:30 pm

      Thanks so much Sarah, I really really appreciate your comment!
      Hope you’re well and good luck with your new job lovely xxx

  4. 17/08/2016 / 5:43 pm

    Fab post. I think it’s asking for you to express your feelings and be so real. I have had periods of times when I felt not OK, I mean who hasn’t?

    Thanks for sharing hun!


    • 24/08/2016 / 8:33 pm

      Thanks so much for your comment Jess, I really do appreciate it. I agree, the response to this post has been great and makes me feel less alone! Love your outfit posts, they’re too good xxx

  5. 17/08/2016 / 5:52 pm

    This is a brilliant post and I could not agree more, the past 18 months have been a tough time for me but I finally came to terms with it a few months back, I still don’t feel 100% but I take each day as it comes. Sending you a big cuddle, thanks for writing an honest post that most people will relate too.



    • 24/08/2016 / 8:35 pm

      This is such a great comment. I really appreciate it Em, you babe! I hope things get better for you. Sending you a big cuddle right back!

  6. 17/08/2016 / 6:00 pm

    Oh hun I love this! I try and stay really positive and upbeat on my social media, but I did have a couple of personal mini meltdowns recently (body confidence issues and spending too much time comparing myself to others) and I decided to be honest and talk about it on the blog. Not only did I feel 10 times better for getting it off my chest, but the response was amazing! It just goes to show that being ‘real’ is just as important as being positive.

    Hope this year is treating you better now too,

    Laura xx | Loved By Laura

    • 24/08/2016 / 8:34 pm

      Oh Laura, thanks so so so much for your amazing comment. I compare myself to others ALL the time and have self confidence issues too. It’s amazing that you’ve also addressed it on your blog, it has certainly made me feel a little better.

      Hope you’re good!


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